What's the Harm in Keeping a Betrayal a Secret?

Spoiler alert: secret-keeping exacts a cost.

Last year, I wrote a piece that appeared in The Washington Post about making hard decisions in relationships. In the article, I pointed to a variety of difficult relationship choices: Should you move in together? How should you discuss waning sexual attraction? Should you speak up about your fury that no one else changes out the empty toilet paper roll?

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