I really appreciate this. I also love footnote 2: "Shower thought: Does anyone else wonder why all of human psychology seems to be built on paradox?" One of our philosophy department's learning goals is that students gain some comfort living with ambiguity--because there's so much of it! (Ambiguity isn't the same as paradox, but in this context they're cousins.)
Just to put it I feel like I am stuck in some kind of ruckus. I don't want to live where I am living right now, I haven't started my professional career in Law in which I did my Bachelors. I have been living with my parents for the last couple of years since I graduated. Time has ticked away, doing chores at home, helping father in his business and doing tons of other things. And I keep saying to them you are not understanding that you people are taking a lot of time away & what good I can make out of my life when I haven't got adequate time. Now I have totally understood that they won't be able to understand and used to talk to my friends a lot that this isn't going right kind of things. I have stopped talking to my friends regarding all this stuff as I got a glimpse that they give advice and don't understand what kind of ruckus I am going through. There came a time when I stopped sharing it my sister as well even though she is the only person with whom I try to share the most. I don't know if I will get out of this turmoil, but I have to put in the work and have to take now agency for everything as nobody is going to understand and create the life I want.
This was a great post! It’s so annoying when people assume they know how I’m feeling. And then they usually try to “fix” me! I’m sure I am guilty of it as well—you offered some excellent ways to soften my assumptions and not own someone else’s experience.
I really appreciate this. I also love footnote 2: "Shower thought: Does anyone else wonder why all of human psychology seems to be built on paradox?" One of our philosophy department's learning goals is that students gain some comfort living with ambiguity--because there's so much of it! (Ambiguity isn't the same as paradox, but in this context they're cousins.)
Just to put it I feel like I am stuck in some kind of ruckus. I don't want to live where I am living right now, I haven't started my professional career in Law in which I did my Bachelors. I have been living with my parents for the last couple of years since I graduated. Time has ticked away, doing chores at home, helping father in his business and doing tons of other things. And I keep saying to them you are not understanding that you people are taking a lot of time away & what good I can make out of my life when I haven't got adequate time. Now I have totally understood that they won't be able to understand and used to talk to my friends a lot that this isn't going right kind of things. I have stopped talking to my friends regarding all this stuff as I got a glimpse that they give advice and don't understand what kind of ruckus I am going through. There came a time when I stopped sharing it my sister as well even though she is the only person with whom I try to share the most. I don't know if I will get out of this turmoil, but I have to put in the work and have to take now agency for everything as nobody is going to understand and create the life I want.
This was a great post! It’s so annoying when people assume they know how I’m feeling. And then they usually try to “fix” me! I’m sure I am guilty of it as well—you offered some excellent ways to soften my assumptions and not own someone else’s experience.