Hah, the Tuesday thing was my way of saying that our typical screw ups can feel like betrayal when they're just our normal Tuesday way of showing up in relationships! (because we pay better attention on Mondays!)
Thank you! I haven’t read Bazerman’s book, and he sounds sincere, but the article put me in mind of the famous showbiz quote: "The most important thing in show business is sincerity. Once you can fake that, you've got it made". After a scandal, might one’s own continuing ambition require a seemingly sincere mea culpa? Ethics before the fact will always be more believable.
You're spot-on to be skeptical. Strategic sincerity is definitely a thing. But Bazerman does something interesting in this book: he shows documented evidence of times he imperfectly tried to act, then owns that he should have gone further and makes suggestions for other scholars and for academic institutions to create environments that make it easier to be ethical and harder to engage in fraud. He offers a pretty well thought out analysis of his own behavior which feels like much more than typical damage control... but who knows? Maybe I'm not engaging enough skepticism.
I am always grateful to the people in my life who forgive me for not being as attentive as I should, or for losing my cool at a simple question because I’m exhausted. We all need to be generously forgiven from time to time. Also, what’s this about Tuesdays??
Haha! It's not that people are plotting against you on Tuesdays, it's just when we're all most likely to be thoughtless. Monday we're still trying to be decent humans, but Tuesday? That's when your partner 'forgets' to mention dinner plans and boom - betrayal by cluelessness.
Why is Tuesday where relationships go to die??? Don't leave is hanging!
Hah, the Tuesday thing was my way of saying that our typical screw ups can feel like betrayal when they're just our normal Tuesday way of showing up in relationships! (because we pay better attention on Mondays!)
Thank you! I haven’t read Bazerman’s book, and he sounds sincere, but the article put me in mind of the famous showbiz quote: "The most important thing in show business is sincerity. Once you can fake that, you've got it made". After a scandal, might one’s own continuing ambition require a seemingly sincere mea culpa? Ethics before the fact will always be more believable.
You're spot-on to be skeptical. Strategic sincerity is definitely a thing. But Bazerman does something interesting in this book: he shows documented evidence of times he imperfectly tried to act, then owns that he should have gone further and makes suggestions for other scholars and for academic institutions to create environments that make it easier to be ethical and harder to engage in fraud. He offers a pretty well thought out analysis of his own behavior which feels like much more than typical damage control... but who knows? Maybe I'm not engaging enough skepticism.
You've made me want to read it! Thanks.
I am always grateful to the people in my life who forgive me for not being as attentive as I should, or for losing my cool at a simple question because I’m exhausted. We all need to be generously forgiven from time to time. Also, what’s this about Tuesdays??
Haha! It's not that people are plotting against you on Tuesdays, it's just when we're all most likely to be thoughtless. Monday we're still trying to be decent humans, but Tuesday? That's when your partner 'forgets' to mention dinner plans and boom - betrayal by cluelessness.
😂. Is that what’s going on today?