This morning at 5AM I got a harsh note from my business partner that one of my calculations was wrong. While getting ready for the day I thought about why the complexity of the calculation amidst volatility was correct in spite of it not agreeing to "back of the envelop" math. I was ready to fight. Then, serendipitously, I read your newsletter. I decided to call him and to tell him I'd provide all the proofs behind my calculation, but the whole purpose was for it to be beneficial to him. We ended the call with the shared idea to show both so he could decided which he wanted to see. Thank you for kicking off my day with a challenge instead of a threat.
Ah I love this so much, Erin. It's kind of mind blowing how mindset shifts like these can help us change course in such powerful ways. Wow, this is really cool, thank you for sharing it here.
Thank you for this! Such a helpful reframe to help me be more mindful about how I approach difficult conversations. I hate conflict and get stressed anticipating it, so how to work on my mindset about these conversations is so useful.
I think this reframing of difficult conversations will also help me when I have necessary conversations with people I don’t care to grow with. That is, I often find myself in the position of having to work things out and make decisions with people with whom I do not have a loving (or even liking) relationship, and I look forward to implementing these tools and getting through them in a more productive and less stressful way. Thank you!
This morning at 5AM I got a harsh note from my business partner that one of my calculations was wrong. While getting ready for the day I thought about why the complexity of the calculation amidst volatility was correct in spite of it not agreeing to "back of the envelop" math. I was ready to fight. Then, serendipitously, I read your newsletter. I decided to call him and to tell him I'd provide all the proofs behind my calculation, but the whole purpose was for it to be beneficial to him. We ended the call with the shared idea to show both so he could decided which he wanted to see. Thank you for kicking off my day with a challenge instead of a threat.
Ah I love this so much, Erin. It's kind of mind blowing how mindset shifts like these can help us change course in such powerful ways. Wow, this is really cool, thank you for sharing it here.
Thank you for this! Such a helpful reframe to help me be more mindful about how I approach difficult conversations. I hate conflict and get stressed anticipating it, so how to work on my mindset about these conversations is so useful.
Aw, thank you so much, Emily!
I think this reframing of difficult conversations will also help me when I have necessary conversations with people I don’t care to grow with. That is, I often find myself in the position of having to work things out and make decisions with people with whom I do not have a loving (or even liking) relationship, and I look forward to implementing these tools and getting through them in a more productive and less stressful way. Thank you!