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kaveinthran's avatar

beautiful, love this,

Journalist Simi Garewal also have this deep quality,

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yZOar04g4zk

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Yael Schonbrun's avatar

Ooh I can’t wait to check this out, thank you!

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Kathryn Barbash, PsyD's avatar

It so often comes down to curiosity. Great article, Yael.

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Yael Schonbrun's avatar

Thank you so much for this, Kathryn!

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BayPoodle's avatar

Apparently I was raised in a DBT family. I call it “poking the bruise.” Poke it enough times and you’ll find it has stopped hurting so much.

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Yael Schonbrun's avatar

An interesting point about poking the bruise so many times that you no longer feel it! Three cheers for habituation?

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Todd Boucher's avatar

I love this - it reminds me of Rachel Remen's advice of "generous" listening.

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Yael Schonbrun's avatar

Hm I don’t know Rachel Remen. Will check it out since I love the phrasing “generous listening “!

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Ann Harman's avatar

To see Barbara Walters when she was young and not so skilled, google to find her interview with Dolly Parton. She starts out with asking her if she is a hillbilly. The interview is worth watching not for Barbara, but for watching Dolly's elegant handling of Barbara's obvious contempt.

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Yael Schonbrun's avatar

I’ve seen that one and agree. I mean, I think BW actually shows her judgement often. But what I think is interesting is that there is a benefit of her feeling authentic in ways that more diplomatic interviewers are not. It certainly has cons too, though.

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